I am so fed up of my ungrateful self .I see my life through what feels like clouded glass. I sit here on my mac book sipping nice coffee in a warm home. Instead of being grateful I sit and think of all that’s going wrong and worry about what might be. I can be so focussed on what I want in my future that I lose sight of all I have to be thankful for in the present. I have a tendency to base my actions on my feelings and hold little regard to what the consequences may be. Why? Because it’s all about me right? ….. about how I feel and about what I want? No No No Rachel you are being a self absorbed princess! This is the pep talk I had with myself not long ago and it was the best butt kicking I have giving myself in a good while.
I am raising 3 beautiful children with very unique and different personalities. The one thing I definitely want them to have in common is a thankful selfless heart. When they moan for too long , I make them name 3 things that they are thankful for in their day. This really annoys them at first but then it distracts them from what they complained about. There is something in that for us adults to learn!? If we could just remain focused on being thankful the issues we face will shrink from the forefront of our minds. I don’t know if it’s just me but once I have got something I want I quickly find something else I think I ‘need’ leaving me little time to enjoy the blessing I just received. I feel like that child that stops every 3 seconds to look at the flower when her mum is trying to drag her to the next appointment that they are already late for. We can be in such a hurry to move on in life that we don’t get the chance to enjoy whats right in front of us presently .
The wonderful revelation that ‘not everything is about me’ makes it way easier to be outward looking and to see the need in others. The mere act of helping someone else will shrink the size of your problem . It then becomes a win win scenario. If we could only lift our focus off ourselves for a second we could really do some good and help our mental wellbeing at the same time. Sometimes I get so caught up in my own problems that I fail to see the people who are in need. I recently have been desperate to move house as we are getting cramped in this one. I was looking at houses daily and getting frustrated and impatient regarding the timing. One day i was particularly disappointed about not moving yet and I received an email from another mum saying she had lost her home and all her belongings . That made me decide that it was time to start thanking God for my wee home and my safe family. I don’t think there is anything wrong in wanting things or hoping for greater things in life but I was loosing prospective on what I did have. I don’t want to be that privileged type of wanting more person. She is not who I want my kids to model. I don’t want to be an inwardly focused woman.
Take a look at yourself and think am I being the biggest Drama queen? Does everything go on how you FEEL? Are most of your sentences filled with ‘ I want’ or I’ need’. Feelings and emotions are good until they rule our lives. Just because we feel something does not mean its right. Without knowing it we can make life all about us. I have realised that this gets very boring and that I become a bit of a materialistic princess. If you hate your job quit moaning about it and start studying at night to do something you enjoy. Also be thankful you have a job that allows you to study . Sometimes we just need to do something about our lives rather than sitting wishing and hoping things will change. Be thankful you have air in your lungs that allow you to get up in the morning and do the life that you complain about so much.If we can start from a place of thankfulness and take steps to change what we don’t like then I think we are on to something.
Personally I thank God for all he does for me in my life because I truly believe without God I would never have gotten out of the deepest pits in my life. But even if you don’t have faith Thankfulness will never lead you astray. It will alway uplift your life and those around you. I understand that if you are in a place of grief or depression this blog is not for you and please do seek help.