We often see motivational material encouraging us to chase our dreams and to aim high in our achievements. I must admit I am a complete sucker for such things. I am all for believing for the best and following my dreams but what happens when I actually get to the place of getting what I wanted?
My last blog was all about having my dream baby boy and how over the moon I am about this. I thought that the difficulty of having a new born was unforgettable ! Well clearly it wasn’t as it was a shock to the system. I find that my emotions range from utter amazement that I have my little boy , to then feeling overwhelmed with how much I have in my day. I had a sudden and obvious revelation that just because I finally got my dream it doesn’t equate to an easy ride. I think of big businesses and how we read about the owners having to work really hard to get their dreams off the ground. Their dream was to have their own company . However when the dream was achieved they still have to work their butts off . I bet they had and still have moments of wanting to give up. I know having a baby is not the same but changing my thoughts has really helped me put my sometimes overwhelming feelings into perspective.
I had a friend that used to always say ‘ keep your eyes on the prize’ and it keeps popping into my head when some days get tough. What is my goal at the moment? Right now its simply to be the best mum I can be and this may not be glamorous but the prize sure is. I look into my future to hopefully see my children who are strong minded and kind take on this world. I may only get to see small glimpses of fulfilment at the moment because life is busy but those small moments are what keep us going. I think far too often we give up either before we get our dream or when its in its infancy.
I think especially in my generation we want things to be glamorous like we are show on social media. My feeds are full of people with kids ‘ #living the dream’ and it gives off this image of life being so cool, easy and fun. If I Was to post to Instagram the puke in my hair or the moment I shout at my kids in the middle of Starbucks instead of ‘ new hair’ or ‘ Starbucks times with these beauties’ then maybe others would get a true insight into what most of parenting actually is. I am guilty of such posts and still will be putting happy memories online. I do however think that we need to really make sure we have a grip on reality because if we do them we are more likely to stick with our dreams and even see them to completion.
I have heard people in successful roles say things like ‘ look out for number one if you want success’ but I totally disagree with this and if getting to my dream required me stepping on others to get it then It’s not worth it for me. I think the journey to get to a place is just as important as the final destination . The journey we take will shape our dream and future. Achieving dreams by being selfish and deceitful will just lead to unsatisfied and lonely ‘success!’
I think there is something significant about that feeling of wanting to give up but actually being being very close to your dream. I can only liking it to labour because when you feel like you cant do it and the pain is just too much it normally means you are very close to seeing your baby. Sometimes when things are getting really tough and you feel like giving up it may just be that what your hoping for is only a few suborn steps away. Life is not always comfortable and if we could just allow ourself to feel uncomfortable for a while we could end up seeing so much more in our lives the we once thought possible.