My eldest has just started talking more than ever and the words she knows comes from those closest to her – my husband and I. It’s got me thinking about what huge power my words have over her life and mines. I have seen both the positive and negatives from the way I speak and act in front of her. She tells me she loves me, that I am pretty, that I am nice and asks me if I am ok.
She does this because I speak these things over her life consistently and now she is mirroring this. We can easily say things like “crazy child” or ” you are so naughty” but the problem with such throw away words is she will start to say these things right back to you. If I want her to grow up to be great then I will speak greatness over her. I have also seen the negative repercussions of my negative speech. Not long after my youngest was born I shouted at her to be quite as I had enough. Scarlett caught this anger and decided that every time baby cried she would shout at her.
The mood we are in affects those around us and I believe this is true even with children. It got me thinking about my thought life as I am the one person who speaks to myself the most even if a word is not uttered. What do I think about most? Where in my thought life do I dwell? If I allow myself to think over and over about my worries or what’s going wrong in life, this will come out of my mouth at some point guaranteed. If I dwell on things that are good and positive, my speech that day has a much better chance of being uplifting. We may have random thoughts that come in our head but it’s what ones we choose to keep circulating that matters.
What are we feeding ourselves? I am not talking about food but what are we allowing in our sphere? Do you surround yourself with people who are always negative? Or who pull you down in order to lift themselves up? We should walk away from spending time with friends feeling re charged and encouraged. It’s so easy to moan along with people rather that steering the conversation into a new direction, helping them and you. What are you spending your free time doing? Is it something that fulfils you or drains you? Even what we watch on TV has an impact. What we feed ourselves affects our thought life which then can go on to affect our speech and actions. I find myself taking a good hard look at all this because I believe it matters.
What kind of person do people see me as? One who uplifts or tears down? It takes so little to see the gold in someone and tell them. Words of encouragement are powerful and yet so simple. If we just stopped for a moment and thought about the amount of negative things we say about people and life we would shock ourselves. If we could just get past our judgmental views towards everyone that’s not us and speak life over them maybe we would in return be happier healthier people.
Practically each day I actively speak out things I am thankful for and some days it can be as simple as a new day. Then I dream of what could be in my life and my family’s. I do this because I want my thoughts to be full of hope and ambition not dread of the future or unthankfulness . I want my children growing up to be encouraging loving dreamers that leave a legacy. There are moments in life that are overwhelming but I believe if we have healthy thoughts in life to begin with, the trouble will build a new layer of character rather than stealing a part of you.
A rudder of a ship is tiny but it can steer its path and the same is true of your tongue. It may be small but it can definitely steer the course of your life. I for one am going to watch what I feed myself, what my mind dwells on and what comes out my mouth. As adults we end up having to go back and try fix the damage done by words from a horrible teacher or even our own parents. We see our teenage years as freedom and fun with little regard for what consequences it will have on our future self. If we can watch the way we speak and act In front of our children they will hopefully grow up as healthy adults that uplift and love.